False. Evidence. Appearing. Real.
Wherever you are in your massage journey- just starting out or years in- I know you're familiar with fear. When you're growing your own practice, there are so many ways to get bamboozled by fear and thrown off course. There's so many things to do, to learn and oh so little time. It is easy to become overwhelmed and as a result, not take any action.
I know how you feel. Especially in the beginning of my massage career, I was easily paralyzed by fear (that I wouldn't really be able to grow a practice), overly anxious (that I wouldn’t be able to handle all the responsibility), and afraid I wouldn't be ‘liked’ enough to fill my schedule.
That began to change when I learned this acronym:
Fear is False. Evidence. Appealing. Real.
Over the years, this acronym has become my mantra. I've learned that so often I get carried away by all the emotion I attach to my fear. For example, I'm afraid I won't be able to fill my schedule is a fact. The story and emotion accompanying this fact is, "because I'm not good enough, strong enough, I don't have the right studio," blah blah...
What I know today is that all of this stinking-thinking (fear based thinking) keeps me small. It robs me of possibility and opportunity. Staying paralyzed by fear is one of the most detrimental things I can do to my own success. What's the saying? “If I want different results I have to take different action."
My antidote to bust through fear is to get in action- even if it's itty bitty baby step action. Here's my (seriously simple) three-step fear buster:
- Identify the problem- what am I really afraid of? Sometimes I have to write the story out
- Stick with the facts- discern the facts from the story & emotion
- Create 2-3 tangible action steps that can be taken today (and the next time) the fear crops up
Remember, this isn't about living without fear- it WILL crop up- but rather, learning how to embrace it like that old friend and walk through it instead of stagnating and resisting.